Thursday, September 27, 2012

Flo's Story

September 27, 2012

Hello All,

I just had to pass along an email excerpt from my friend Florence whom I visited in South Africa this past July. In these times of extreme differences, prejudices and religious views, this world has really gotten "out of order". We need to get back on "track" without anymore national tragedies occurring. Thanks Flo, for taking a stand; not for your religious beliefs, not for cultural prejudices but for humanity. We forget sometimes, its importance.

Hello from South Africa,

I am often asked what do you think of South Africa? It is hard to answer and it depends what I have experienced that day...

This country is so diverse, at time you feel like you are in a first class country with amazing architecture, fantastic restaurants and large businesses and at other times you are in the middle of poverty. Every day we hear stories that could be turned to a great movie. I do plan to keep a record of them one day. I think it will be the best way to experience this place, listening to South Africans from all races and social classes telling their stories.

Today I went to the store to add more minutes on my cell phone, next to me was a well dressed white guy about my age pushing a fancy double stroller with 2 beautiful black kids. He noticed my smile, we got in a conversation while waiting for the teller. He has 5 other kids, the 8 month old baby in the stroller was adopted because her mother died when she was 3 months old, no father and nobody to care for. The 18 months old boy was happily sucking on his milk bottle giving me big smiles, he was adopted shortly after birth. His story: he was put in a plastic bag right after birth and disposed in a field, he was found alive 3 days later!! 

I was speechless, after taking a big breath, I told the little boy: "Well done for surviving that experience, you are now care for by someone who is going to keep you." And of course I validate the father for his great contribution and love for humankind.

Fifteen minutes later I am in line at the grocery store call Woolworth still thinking of that father and his 2 kids. In front of me a white women in her sixties behind me a white women about my age. The lady on front of me leaned towards me and said: "did you hear the rumor that Woolworth is only hiring black people now, look at all the cashiers they are all black". The lady behind me heard her too. Well I said " I don't know about the rumor but I can see that all the employees are blacks what about it?" "That's not right she said it should be at least 50% white they need us". Poor lady, she was hoping to find another white supremacist, an allied and she found me, lol:   "Last time I looked at this country and the continent of Africa, the population did not consist of 50% Whites in fact I noticed a LOT more Blacks and Colored folks, isn't about time the table is turned and we see more Blacks employees than Whites? Isn't it a justification that "they need us" so we can continue to use them and pay cheap labor, wasn't it long ago that Woolworth was hiring ONLY Whites?" Rest assure, I did not raise my voice that much, just a little for everyone to hear me! The lady being very "Africans-British" was trying hard to stay calm. I finally turned my head to get some "fresh air" the lady behind me was laughing giving me 2 thumbs up.

With that nice acknowledgement, I asked her, should I add that my husband is BLACK and he is a doctor, I mean an educated black man? At that point we both burst laughing and the racist idiot on front of us was saved by the call of the bell " next customer please isle no. 4" where she was helped by a beautiful black lady dressed in a tribal skirt in honor of Heritage Day in South Africa.

As you can see it's a diverse society but for now most people are embracing the difference, some making a huge contribution to help another human being even from another race and just once in a while an idiot shows up.”


I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I.


All the best,

GMarie

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Florida and California - Vacation, Day 10 - 19

September 1, 2012

            The last few stops on my vacation were Tampa, Florida area, Oceanside, CA almost an hour north of San Diego and Hayward, CA about 30 minutes outside of San Francisco.
            Florida is now what I call home. I live in a town called South Pasadena which is down the road from St. Pete Beach and under two miles from the Gulf of Mexico. I decided to stop here before flying to San Diego to check on my condo. It was raining the day I landed in Tampa which probably put a damper on folks wanting to travel to the dinner, my BFF Laverne, planned at Brio’s Grille at International Mall. Even my favorite couple, Adrian and Tookie (GMarie’s Page story on 11/15/2011), could not attend. Tookie had become very sick a few weeks earlier and was hospitalized. So without further ado, we started dinner promptly at 6:30pm.
           It was really good to see my friends Lynn and Sylvain who I stayed with for a couple of weeks, after I rented my condo to a law student and before I left for Saudi last year. Laverne brought her friend Judy; both former co-workers of mine from Veteran Affairs. Despite the small turnout, we had a great time catching up and talking about old times. The next couple of days was spent running around town, morning and night with Laverne.  My departure from Florida was bittersweet; happy to become "one" with my plane seat so I could get some rest and sad because I had a wonderful time with my friends.

           I arrived in San Diego, and no luggage! You know how you are sort of in denial until the luggage belt stops? I found out that my luggage never made it out of Texas, why…..of course, no reasoning given. All was made light of when I stepped outside and there was my daughter Monet, and my two grand-daughters, Londyn and Jaylin. I have not seen them in almost a year and realized how much I missed them. Londyn, as though she practiced, blurted out….”Hi…..Hi……Hi Grandma!” She was not talking too much before I left for Saudi. Jaylin was only 7 months old when I left, so she just stared at me for a while but decided after about 30 minutes to give in and gave me a big warm smile.




 Usually Grandmas get to spoil the grandkids rotten, but besides Monet attending college full-time, she keeps the two girls pretty happy and very spoiled. So all I could do was buy their new fall wardrobe and act as their playmate while Mommy did her homework. That was fine, I am still a kid at heart. Love the kids! Oh, my bags finally arrived at 4:00am the next morning after my arrival!

My last vacation stop is to see my adopted family in Hayward, CA. I have three more days before returning to go back to the “Kingdom”, so I plan to do some shopping, but  also get some folks together for one more dinner. My “Friendship” Maggie and her sister, Veronica, prepared a number of tasty entrees as well as one of my favorites, chicken enchiladas, A couple of my former co-workers; Ms. Ruthie, Cynthia and Lisa from the U.S. Mint came to break bread with us as well as Friendship’s daughter and grand-daughter, Angie and Maggie-Pie. To wrap up a beautiful vacation, my cousin Kenneth, who I had not seen in almost 30 years, came by to hang out with us.







It was a long transit back to Saudi, but I thought about all of the friends and family I’d visited in several places in just three weeks! Folks thought I was crazy to have gone so many places in such a short period of time. I normally consider a vacation as a time to rejuvenation myself and just “do me”. But this time I said I just wanted to reconnect and spend time with relatives and friends that I have not seen in a while. Instead of running all over town I just really wanted to spend some quality time with them. I had the opportunity and time to do just that and trust, I am forever renewed by this experience.
I say, “Life is not a dress rehearsal, live it to its fullest.” If you can visit a loved one, do it. If they “run through your mind”, pick up the phone, and call them. We all get busy and have to make a living but time waits for no one.

All the best
To you and yours,
GMarie